6 Great Tips For You To Level Up Your Sex Life
Sometimes, sex just doesn’t last as long as it should, even if she was making it crystal clear that she definitely did not want you to stop, if you catch my drift.
Maybe it’s been a while, or maybe your girl is just so mind-bogglingly hot that you simply can’t contain yourself…or something. Who knows? But either way, when it’s over too soon, she’s not happy, you’re not happy, nobody’s happy.
Recent research reveals that the average length of time sex lasts is a mere 5.4 minutes, thanks to the fact that men, on average, can orgasm within five minutes. (Nice work, guys). And that’s not very long at all, especially when you consider the fact that it can take women an average of about 20 minutes to reach orgasmic bliss.
That said, you might want to last a bit longer, you know, for her pleasure. And obviously, when you’re rockin’ her world, it’s going to be equally hot for you as well, my friend. It’s impossible not to feel like an absolute sex god when you’re taking her places she never knew existed.
And so, without further ado, here are six amazing sex hacks that will help you last longer, so that you can fulfill her every fantasy, for some of the best sex she’ll ever have.
1. K-Y Duration
The first step to lasting longer in bed? K-Y Duration, of course. It’s a nifty new sex spray that helps you control exactly how long you’ll last, so that you can keep going until you’re both satisfied. Now that’s what I’m talking about.
Formulated with lidocaine, just spray some of this magical stuff on your junk beforehand, and you’ll be good to go for a LOT longer than you’re used to. Prepare to blow her mind, my dudes. And don’t forget to order a bottle here.
2. Do your kegels.
Guess what? Contrary to popular belief, kegels aren’t just for pregnant ladies and old people who pee a little when they sneeze. Kegels are for everyone, including guys who want to last just a little (or a lot) longer in the sack.
A study presented at the European Congress of Urology in Stockholm found that doing kegels regularly for 12 weeks, a.k.a. squeezing the muscles in your butt/dick province over and over to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, can make you last four goddamn times longer than you normally do. And that means four times more pleasure for you and for her. Who wouldn’t want that?
3. Treat yourself to some self-love.
Gentlemen, say hello to your favorite hand. Some good old-fashioned masturbation before sex will definitely help you last longer, because it’s basically like desensitizing yourself to the exquisite sensation of coital bliss, and lulling the overwhelming I-need-to-cum-right-fucking-now feeling you may know all too well.
4. Think about something that’s not sexy at all.
Think about how hot dogs are made. Visualize a bus station bathroom. Perhaps go over the second law of thermodynamics in your head. The entropy of an isolated system does not decrease. Turned off already? Because I sure am.
Whenever you feel yourself rapidly approaching the point of no return, simply imagine something you find utterly heinous for a few seconds, and like magic, your forthcoming orgasm should creep back to where it came from, until you’re finally ready to blow.
5. Save your favorite sexual position for last.
To last longer for her pleasure, it’d definitely help to start with the least stimulating position possible, and save your favorite, most pleasurable position for the grand finale, if you know what I mean.
So, if doggy style is the one position that gets you every time, hold off on that and try something a little less…exciting. Like missionary. That’s just vanilla enough to keep you from finishing too soon. It also helps to use a condom specifically created to help you last longer, in case you need something a little extra.
6. Switch up the stimulation.
When things feel too good for too long, you will orgasm faster, and then sex will be over, defeating your purpose of lasting longer. And that’s not what we want, is it? No, it’s not.
So, you should switch things up fairly often and try different angles of stimulation to keep the fun going. “Not only will it keep you both hovering rather than climbing steadily toward a climax, it stops sex becoming too orgasm focused, making it last longer,” says sex expert Tracey Cox.
That said, if you feel like you’re getting close, try pulling out for a few minutes and focus on her pleasure until you’ve cooled down a little. Then get back to business and finish what you started.